{"id":41353,"date":"2021-01-25T06:22:30","date_gmt":"2021-01-25T06:22:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/stg-httpsdrpremcom-staging.kinsta.cloud\/podcast2\/bridle-your-emotions-dr-prem-podcast\/"},"modified":"2022-05-04T06:07:28","modified_gmt":"2022-05-04T06:07:28","slug":"bridle-your-emotions-dr-prem-podcast","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/stg-httpsdrpremcom-staging.kinsta.cloud\/life\/bridle-your-emotions-dr-prem-podcast","title":{"rendered":"Bridle your emotions – Live A Great Life Podcast by Dr Prem \u2013 Chapter. 35"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u2014Dale Carnegie<\/strong><\/em><\/p>

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Each one of us has his or her peculiar ways of reacting to things. While some of us prefer keeping our emotions<\/strong><\/span><\/em> to ourselves, others stay true to their emotions and express them clearly. Rather than letting their emotions take control of them, such people control their emotions and guide them wherever they desire. They understand that humans experience a plethora of positive, negative, blissful and distressing emotions. They don\u2019t hide any of these emotions; instead, their emotions reflect fully in the way they behave. They\u2019ve got the perfect balance and control over their emotions.<\/p>\n

On a roller-coaster of a bevy of emotional states every day, we should learn to accept our feelings without being too judgmental about them. A newbie will never learn how to control a vehicle unless they accelerate to a level that requires control. Similarly, to gain emotional balance, we should allow emotions to show up first. Unless we allow free rein to our emotions, we cannot learn how to use them wisely. Sigmund Freud emphasizes the need for expressing emotions in a balanced way as he says, \u2018Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways.\u2019Thus, be expressive with your emotions, lest they show up in awkward and destructive ways.<\/p>\n

Six \u2018classic\u2019 emotions that crave expression<\/h2>\n

Conventional scientific knowledge does not recognize any emotions beyond happiness, surprise, fear, disgust, anger, and sadness \u2013 each of which may vary in degree from time to time. These emotions need to be checked just to ensure that a surfeit of any of these emotions should not suppress the others. If they do so, one particular emotion will become a permanent part of our persona, which undoubtedly is a flaw. These emotions call for balanced expression so that we express all emotions the way we feel them.<\/p>

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Aiming to challenge the classic theory of six emotions, folks at the Institute of Neuroscience and Psychology at the University of Glasgow34<\/sup> proved that if we take facial expressions into consideration, only four prominent emotions exist. They utilized several computer-generated facial animations to put both anger and disgust, and surprise and fear, in the same categories. Well, moving beyond their findings, we do need to express all emotions \u2013 be they four, six or more \u2013 in a balanced way.<\/p>\n

Emotional balance \u2013 from avoidance to acceptance<\/h2>\n

Why do we need to achieve emotional balance? Most people are reluctant to experience their feelings as naturally as others do. They suppress or avoid emotions to ensure that others don\u2019t get the slightest idea of how they feel about a particular person, thing or occurrence. On the other hand, some people overdo it to the extent that their feelings become all-consuming, thereby developing an attachment to their feelings. We cannot do without finding the middle ground where these extremes converge to create the perfect equilibrium. We should allow ourselves to accept our feelings without judging them since avoiding them will cause further problems.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t overdo or suppress emotions; balance them instead<\/h2>\n

It\u2019s always advisable not to fight your emotions. When you suppress or overdo your emotions, they come out forcibly at the most inopportune time. Similarly, instead of being at the mercy of your emotions, control and use them to your advantage. Gather all your emotions and release only that much of it that doesn\u2019t overpower your intellect.<\/p>\n

Oscar Wilde, the renowned Irish novelist, playwright, poet, and essayist, says, \u2018I don\u2019t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.\u2019 What he goes on to establish is the fact that just as we control our words and actions, we should have a similar sort of control over our emotions. Such control helps us gain the much-needed emotional balance.<\/p>\n

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